I am passionately dedicated to your empowerment, expansion and success. I'm at heart, an educator~ so a lot of the material you'll be reading on this site is very candid, straightforward and controversial. My hope is, you'll have an "Aha!" experience while you're visiting, and gain some headway with the challenges you've found to be most troubling.
The perspectives and concepts you'll be exposed to on these web pages are the direct outcome of my life experiences, and are solely my own. These materials are not to be interpreted as being congruent with nor reflective of those maintained by any psychotherapeutic community or any body of individuals that promotes psychological counseling.
I have not worked as a state licensed clinician, nor has that been my intent or aim. In my view, psychotherapy always seemed too lengthy a process, so I conceived and developed radically unique methods that could resolve human pain more quickly and permanently.
While you might acquire worthy insights from my self-help articles, my consulting work has never dealt with mental analysis of your suffering! I have offered unconventional, comprehensive approaches to reconstructing clients' lives, by teaching them how to heal and grow themselves. My methods have been nothing short of transformational. Each highly specific, yet simplistic tool (many of which are now offered in my YouTube videos) is designed to eliminate obstacles that inhibit joy, success and contentment, so you are finally able to construct the kind of life you may have always wanted.
My book, DO YOU LOVE TO BE NEEDED, OR NEED TO BE LOVED? details how I helped my clients heal. You might think of it as a primer on Codependency and the core trauma wounds that drive our unending compulsion to place the needs of others far ahead of our own. This addictive reflex prevents us from forming nourishing, healthy, reciprocal attachment bonds. You can order the softcover version (see the Amazon link on this site's main page), or download it as an e-book from Kindle.
I retired from my wellness practice in late 2017, but wanted to continue helping people learn how to repair themselves. You will see GettinBetter Courses offered on this site, which may improve your life and ease your pain. In the interim, I hope you'll view my online videos, which offer life-altering tools and powerful strategies that can help you better navigate your daily existence, and start healing.
Some background trivia: I returned to school at forty-one, and earned a Bachelor's degree in Human Behavior Psychology and a Master of Arts in Counseling Psych. I completed a six-year private practice internship and sat for both my state board exams. I chose to surrender my application for MFT licensure after a serious accident and accompanying injuries in 2007 made it impossible to retake my second test. This incident altered my career course~ but I remained dedicated to helping people rebuild and restore themselves by sharing powerful self-worth building tools I'd invented for myself in my mid-twenties.
I attribute my wisdom and skill to possessing acute intuition, the courage to surmount substantial life challenges, and my fierce, unrelenting commitment to personal growth, emotional vibrancy and overall wellness. Regrettably, my return to academia did not expand nor enhance these gains.
You'll notice I've written a lot about Borderline Personality Disorder. My articles on this topic are an unintended consequence of working for over two decades with clients' key issues like poor self-worth, which contribute to and perpetuate all relationship difficulties.
If you're trying to recover from a difficult relationship and you relate to my writings, it's thanks to the thousands who have courageously shared their painful stories with me. You are reading transcriptions of all those verbal accounts, and I hope they will bring you some relief, clarity and resolution.
This website is not intended as a support resource for people struggling with BPD! If you have this disorder or suspect that you might, it's best that you redirect yourself to alternative web content that may feel more congruent with your own views and needs.
The following links will take you subjects that might be of special interest to you; Anxiety/Panic Disorders - Sex Addiction - Attention Deficit Disorders (ADD/ADHD) - Weight Loss - Passive-Aggression - Sexual Difficulties - Mid-life Struggles - Codependency and numerous other relationship issues.
If you'd prefer to listen to my materials and you own an iPhone, iPad or iPod, click here for the web-reader app that'll help you accomplish this. I believe you can find an android version of this type of software to download, if you do a little web research.
Selected letters I received over the course of many years are responded to in my Q&A Forums. My Articles may occasionally be revamped and expanded to keep that body of information fresh and vital. Please save this site to your *favorites* and feel free to visit as often as you like!
Due to time constraints, I'm no longer replying to readers' email requests for guidance. Sorry for any inconvenience or disappointment this may cause you! Please do not phone or write me requesting referrals to a professional who works as I did, before retiring from one-on-one consulting. I cannot help you with this, but I wish you every success in finding expert, meaningful assistance and support.
If you believe this site's content has helped you, there's a donation button on my home page to facilitate making a contribution, should you feel so inclined. Whatever you can give is greatly appreciated, and thank you!
If you wish to reach me in reference to a speaking engagement, TV or radio broadcast, please leave your information in a voicemail with either of the numbers on my contact page, and you'll hear back from me very shortly. Thank you for visiting my site and my YouTube channel. My most fervent hope is that you will gain something of real value through exposure to my spirit and essence within these venues.