Feeling “too Good” Anxiety

You’ve done great so far! Now, let’s help you learn how to handle and welcome light, good feelings! You'll be learning Anxiety Mantras in this video, which will help you dismantle your expectation of something bad happening, soon after you feel good.

Feeling really good anxiety, is a bit trickier than you might think to dismantle, but don’t worry~ this is merely a learning curve, that’ll soon become a non-issue. Please watch this video numerous times, because it requires some repetition to embed itself solidly within you.

This tutorial explains how you got programmed as a little kid to expect disaster every time you felt fairly stable or good for a brief time. It helps you learn why you've come to distrust light, easy feelings, and why you’ve always anticipated the “other shoe dropping” every time you experience feeling a little too happy or calm.

We have to deprogram the reflex in you to expect disaster immediately after feeling "great." There’s no such thing as bad following good, yet you got used to experiencing this over and over again, from a very early age onward. This pattern turned into superstition~ a Pavlovian response if you will, to frequent and consistent disappointments and setbacks that diminished your Natural Child's sense of happiness when you were small.

In order to feel less anxious about (rare) light or good feelings, you began mentally envisioning what could possibly go wrong, and began preparing yourself for the worst that could happen. This helped lessen your shock or surprise when something bad did happen to take away your glee. In short, this methodology helped you feel a bit calmer, which was your ‘payoff’ for consistently using it.

It’s likely you've learned to mentally fast-forward when you feel “good” for any length of time, because you've been conditioned to expect that something bad would occur soon after you felt somewhat stable or happy. Again, what this has brought about in you, is "good feelings" aren't to be trusted, because they quickly trigger anticipation anxiety about loss of them, and get your brain way too busy with "What If's?" 

This clever coping strategy you developed as a little kid helped you avoid feeling destabilized when the rug got pulled out from under you (yet again) and your good feelings suddenly vanished~ but you’re still doing it! This is dangerous for you, because it keeps your anxiety alive.

You perfected this adaptive reflex when you were little. You may have even felt some pride for having “invented” this technique to avert some pain~ but you’re still wanting to control the future, which undermines you in all realms of your adult life (even romantically).

Prophesy Fulfillment brings us satisfaction, or we wouldn’t engage in such elaborate mind games with ourselves! We gain a sense of comfort and “control” that we’ve predicted the future, but anxiety gets triggered each time we engage in it, because we can’t completely control Tomorrow (and neither can anyone else).

In my view, most people have Generalized Anxiety. They were either born with it or it was acquired during childhood. In rare cases such as extreme phobias, anxiety might be tied to a past life event that still lingers in the body's cellular structure and resides there as a post-traumatic event. Hypnotic Regression Therapy may help eliminate this, if you suspect it's an issue for you.

Whatever’s unfamiliar to us or that we don’t understand and can’t make sense of, we fear. It’s natural for humans to want to reduce their feelings of fear, so we invent all kinds of ways to accomplish this.