This is one of the best guides to parenting, that I have ever seen. Every time I read it aloud to a client, it chokes me up~ because it's so simple, yet so profound. If you are a parent, I hope it may serve as a template or road map--a gentle reminder if you will, to raise your kid better than your parents did.
If I Had My Child to Raise Over Again
If I had my child to raise over again,
I'd finger paint more, and point the finger less.
I'd do less correcting, and more connecting.
I'd take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes.
I would care to know less, and know to care more.
I'd take more hikes and fly more kites.
I'd stop playing serious, and seriously play.
I'd run through more fields, and gaze at more stars.
I'd do more hugging, and less lugging.
I would be firm less often and affirm much more.
I'd build self-esteem first, and the house later.
I'd teach less about the love of power,
and more about the power of love.
When the Mother-ship is sound, her passengers can reach their destination intact. (Repair your Self, so your kids can grow up to be healthy, whole adults.)
~Shari Schreiber, M.A.